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Bias

I wrote this over  a year ago and for some reason never posted it.  Given all that’s happening now with BLM and the ugliness of division wrought bare with UK and US politics, it seems apt to actually press “publish”

Last year, the Irish actor, Liam Neeson, opens his mouth and lets a genuine insight come out during a newspaper interview with a journalist, Clémence Michallon.   In this he admits to having combed the streets looking for any lone, random, aggressive, black-skinned man; to batter with a cosh in revenge for a close female friend being raped.  During this interview, Neeson was at pains to point out that he knew his feelings were wrong and this primal need for revenge could not be assuaged in a decent society.  And given he probably knows more than most, the reeking damage that revenge creates, having grown up in Ireland at the height of the troubles, I’m inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt.

FILE – This Saturday, Aug. 15, 1998 file photo shows Royal Ulster Constabulary Police officers as they stand on Market Street, the scene of a car bombing in the centre of Omagh, Co Tyrone, 72 miles west of Belfast, Northern Ireland. The Aug. 15, 1998, attack was the deadliest in four decades of conflict over Northern Ireland. None of the Irish Republican Army dissidents responsible for killing 29 people, mostly women and children, has been successfully prosecuted. (AP Photo / Paul McErlane, File)

Obviously I don’t know Neeson so cannot speak on his motives and how he thinks.  However,  he does make a fine point which has been lost in a lot of the more sensationalist press and TV coverage on this story;  primal revenge comes from a very different place than conscious or subconscious bias and the two should not be confused.

Even the associate professor of experimental psychology at University College London, Lasana Harris, struggles to make a conclusive link.  Although he says that incidents such as rape can shape the the way someone thinks about a specific community, he thinks that it may have something to do with existing or pre-existing biases.  To give credit where its due,  he acknowledges that there is an unjustifiable prejudice when it comes to black people being perceived as perpetrators of sexual assault. “You can control it if you’re aware of the stereotype, if you’re aware of the fact that you have these stereotypes and these biases,” he says.

It’s this acknowledgement which creates the distinction; primal revenge involves an action or behaviour which is not premeditated or thought out. Bias is often a conditioned choice which can be mitigated once someone is aware they are biased in some way.  Neeson became aware of this in the week after hearing of the rape and chose to change his attitude and behaviour.

This all starts with our brains which are complex systems which control much of what we do.  We can be exposed to 11 million pieces of information at any one time; however our brain only has capacity to functionally deal with about 40 information ‘bites’ at any moment.  Thankfully we  have the capacity to make unconscious decisions within 200 to 250 milliseconds after taking in a piece of stimuli,  so we  filter information and select what is important to us, to reduce the demand on our brains.

In addition, and I’m massively simplifying lots of neurological research here;  our brain is made up of 100 billion neurons. As we grow and develop, these neurons are ‘wired up’ to each other and  then communicate through thousands of connections  helping form our memories.  The part of the brain called the hippocampus is vital for forming new memories. We use our hippocampus and surrounding areas to bind our memories together and add information about context or location.  Given we start to form our memories as early as 3 days old,  we all have different memories based on our own experiences, backgrounds, cultures and attributes.  Even so our memories are not exact records of events; they are  reconstructed in many different ways after events happen, which means they can be distorted by several of our biases.

Our fundamental way of looking at and encountering the world is driven by this “hard-wired” pattern of making decisions about others based on our memories and what feels safe, likeable, valuable, competent, etc. without us even realising it.  So we see certain things and miss certain things, depending on what the unconscious is focused on. It filters the evidence that we collect, generally supporting our already held points of view, and dis-proving a point of view that we disagree with.

Add to this mix, our culture, which comes to  life though the symbols and meanings, stories and myths, observations, values and assumptions we  start gathering from a very young age.  Symbiotically we absorb the generalisations and stereotypes that  our human groups holds and by human groups I mean family,  friends, colleagues that we spend time with;  they all influence our bias even when we don’t realise.  We all use stereotypes to some extent, as they help us to learn about people and other human groups as well as make quick decisions such as, is this situation safe or dangerous?  Our capacity for stereotyping also helps us look through a busy crowd and spot our friends.  So in summary our brains, cultural upbringing and life experiences influence our stereotypical thinking and our biases.  Its what makes us uniquely human.

I’ve hosted cultural subconscious bias awareness workshops and run coaching sessions on the impact of bias particularly on decision making and teamwork.  Invariably participants warm up by completing a number of the free bias tests offered online.   These are useful for me too as certain instances or situations on this island can affect my bias and I want to stay aware of my reactions and choices.

For I too experience deep seated racial bias here in Barbados.  White skins to black skins;  black skins to white skins and black skins to different shades of black skins.  I have lost count of the amount of times I have been standing in a queue, quite happily with all colours of skin, only to find when its my turn to be served for the black-skinned teller or server to walk off, or find another laborious task to do first,  before serving me.  Never was this more blatant than in a Wildey coffee shop next to Carters, the local hardware store, when after queuing to place my  coffee order, the local server walked off when I got to the front of the queue, forcing her colleague to eventually shout across the store for my order.  I watched the same woman do this twice over with other white- skinned customers as I sat drinking my coffee.  Another small example involves the local Cheapside market stall vendor who charges me $6 for a bag of lemons and then charges the customer standing next to me $2 for the same product.  When I ask about the price difference,  I’m aggressively informed “this is my price.  Do you want the lemons or not”?  You quickly learn not to argue, particularly when you feel the need for the accompanying gin!    Living here and experiencing this regularly I now have a small inkling of what racism must feel like for black skinned people living on my home island.

There are many training courses and workshops that recruiters and hiring managers can attend to make sure that their own biases do not affect the hiring process.  However,  its often difficult to find out the personal biases and attitude of the candidate without stepping into a minefield of employment law.  This is why I love this practical 5 minute article by Fletcher Winbush which gives an easy to follow  6 point guide for any hiring manager to uncover any underlying attitude issues held by a candidate.

More employers, particularly those in the service sectors;   need to hire for the right attitude and awareness of personal bias, than just relying on skills (which can be taught) or experience (which can be learned on the job).

Understanding our personal biases gives us choice; to look at any situation which gets our dander up and figure out why we think and feel this way.

Stay curious about difference.  Stay curious about yourself.

 

 

Saying ‘Aaagh’

Today I went for my first ever Breast mammogram.  I am constantly amazed by how fortunate we are to have our National Health Service and for this breast screening to be free.  However, it turns out that many women do not turn up to the screening service, particularly the younger age group (the NHS is now offering screening services for a randomised group of women aged between  46 and 50).

pink breast cancer awareness ribbon
pink breast cancer awareness ribbon
This 6 minute test is undertaken by highly trained, caring and compassionate women, normally in a location where it’s easy to park. It’s so efficient I was in and out of the car-park within 30 minutes.  Breast cancer awareness is everywhere.  From Hollywood superstars, to business leaders, friends, Mums, daughters – the proliferation of pink cancer ribbons and fund-raising is huge. As is, unfortunately, the number of people we know and care about being affected by it.  Why take the risk and skip your Mammogram?  It’s 6 minutes of ‘uncomfortableness’, yet potentially  months and years of peace of mind.

So if people don’t turn up for mammograms for a cancer that is so widely known and prevalent, just consider the Herculean task of waking people up to the potential of mouth cancer.

In the UK, November is designated mouth cancer awareness month.

mouth-cancer-ribbon

Mouth cancer is on the increase;  by 39% in the UK in the last decade and by 92% since the 1970’s.  In my small friendship circle alone,  I know 3 other women who’ve experienced it and one lovely, gentle man, who has died of it. More people die from mouth cancer than cervical cancer and testicular cancer combined. Last week my dentist told me she’s just referred a 19 year old teenage boy showing all the signs of mouth cancer.

sam_0493This is not a cancer to be taken lightly.  Its effects are more visible and potentially more debilitating than many others.  Removing oral cancer, if it’s caught in time, can leave long-lasting affects on the speech and swallow function, on the function of the jaw and voice box, on neck and shoulder movement and additionally – in my case at least – a significant psychological impact created by  extensive scarring  to the mouth, neck, arm and stomach and having to learn to speak differently. img_6937 In many cases, mouth cancer survivors have to cope with developing a new self-identity.

Many of the populace – if they happen to be aware about mouth cancer at all –  figure it’s not going to happen to them.  Particularly if they don’t smoke, drink only occasionally, eat a balanced, healthy diet, have never had the HPV virus, are female, are fit and healthy and are under 50.

I was one of those people.

These factors were the reason that my dentist discounted mouth cancer for 4 months – and she is a great dentist.  Today,  as I type, a 47-year-old, fit, healthy and gorgeous woman is undergoing a 10+ hour operation because  4 different dentists misdiagnosed her mouth ulcer as being caused by a wisdom tooth.

mouth-cancer-check-2016-a4-downloadWe need to take responsibility for our own mouths.  Pay attention to ulcers which have not healed within three weeks, red and white patches in the mouth or any unusual lumps or swellings in the mouth, head and neck area.  Anything unusual in your mouth, anything that changes and stays changed for more than 3 weeks – go and see your dentist.  Specifically tell them you want to discount mouth cancer.  Put that thought in their head before they examine you so it’s in their conscious brain.

Here is what to do to check your mouth – it will take you less than a minute.  Do this in good light and pay attention to any changes

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This picture is my mouth cancer, the day before my operation.img_6703 It doesn’t look serious does it?  But it was already a stage 2/3 cancer (I didn’t know this at the time) as it had spread into a lymph node.

As part of my monthly check up I discuss this lack of awareness with my Maxillofacial consultant surgeon.  He does all he can to raise awareness and catch people early.  He doesn’t want to sit in his consulting room, face a frightened patient and say “you’ve got cancer”.  He’d like to watch his young son play his football matches and read him bedtime stories, instead of standing in an operating room for over 12 hours conducting microscopic, intricate surgery to remove cancers that could have been treated differently if caught earlier.  His dedication is inspiring, admirable and his frustration palpable. I always know  when he pushes back his chair and runs his fingers over his head,  he’s stressed.  I’ve seen him do this enough times in the past year to know this pattern.

mouth cancer risk factors
mouth cancer risk factors
So many people have asked me, what causes mouth cancer.  The official line is smoking increases your chances as does heavy drinking.  If you’re overweight, eat rubbish, don’t exercise, have the HPV virus, are over 50 and male, you’re much more likely to be in the target zone.

But given none of this applies to me, I’m left with seeking different answers.  So here is my theory, based on my extensive reading and research over the last year.  In addition to the list above, pay attention if you are:

  • Stressed, and have been stressed for a long period of time;
  • Heading towards burnout (including feeling irritable, unpredictable, isolated, frustrated, confrontational, irrational, incoherent, always tired, eating or drinking more);
  • Hold, or have held, a mobile phone to your face and ear for over 20 minutes for long periods of time;
  • Grow up in a household with parents who are heavy smokers;
  • Spend, or spent time in, smoky atmospheres even though you have never smoked yourself.

Make a date with your mouth each week. Consider this to be an essential part of your personal insurance policy for the years ahead. 

May  you, and your loved ones, live long, happy, healthy, productive, cancer-free lives.

And may Mike get to spend more time with Henry.

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Returning

In ancient times in places as far apart as Egypt and India,  our ancestors lived with the concept of eternal return.  Their belief;  the universe recurs, and will continue to recur across infinite time and space. And as a result,  time is cyclical and recurring.

Even today, in many religions such as Buddhism, Hinduism and Sikhism, the concept of a cyclical pattern is inherent. The wheel of life represents an endless cycle of birth, life and death.  We live to die. And eventually, by living a good life, Nirvana or nothingness can be achieved.Returning. Nothingness

And the system of groundhog day daily life,  a system of returning repeatedly, is something we all experience, sometimes without realising.

We return to work and we return from work. We return to friends, family, pets.  We return to our home. And hopefully to our real selves in our private spaces.  Some of our returns are more significant than others. Returning to a friendship, not lost, just dormant and re-found. Returning to a trusted brand for mortgages, insurances or cars.  Even  returning home after a disagreement.

How many returns do you make today or this week?  Daily occurances  demonstrating that linear time is not the only time we move to. Returning cycical timeHow many of us really embody daily change and difference in our busy lives?  How exhausting would this be?! And in recognising that many of our actions and decisions are more habitual than conscious, does this awareness change our behaviour?

Being sick, means my habitual returns are broken and new ones form. There are returns which are firsts so they take on a significant hue; the return home to Roscoe from the hospital,  the return to eating ordinary food,  to talking so most understand, to walking more than 100 metres without becoming exhausted.  Then there are the returns which are more habitual; dressing myself, washing my hair, driving, doing the school run, shouting at my boys for leaving trails of dirt, grime and mess behind them.

And then there is the return to work.  And even going in for my first half day last week knocks me sideways.  Returning to using my brain in a certain way, to maintaining a professional image, to being alert for all communication – it’s exhausting.

With this return to  work, I  find myself  excited, scared, inquisitive, curious. How can I…? How will I…? How much do I…?  It’s true, I now manage a large amount of ambiguity, in terms of self, of work and the finite amount of energy that I have.  Returning TrustI must trust that time is not linear, it is cyclical. That I was, I am, I will be, great again.

And then a conversation provides a breakthrough.  My worth and value is not measured in what I do, defined by quantity and physical doing , it’s measured by how I enable.  I am returning to being a catalyst, a mentor, a coach, a leader. I am returning to being my whole self.

We all return, eventually.  Let’s be  aware and grateful of the habitual and revived returns we make in this life.  And if they don’t fit, or serve a purpose, let us change.

After all, we may have many lives ahead of us to reap the rewards of the life we live today.

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